Spanish Phrase
¿Qué es lo que más te importa?
Meaning
This phrase is a deep, reflective question used to ask someone about their core values or highest priorities. It uses the relative pronoun 'lo que' to refer to an abstract concept or 'the thing' that is important. The verb 'importar' functions like 'gustar', where the person it matters to is the indirect object.
When to use
Use this during serious conversations, philosophical discussions, or when getting to know someone on a deeper level. It is appropriate for close friends, family members, or in a professional coaching context.
✦Grammar Breakdown
¿Quéeslo quemásteimporta?
Lo que
This relative pronoun is used to mean 'what' or 'that which' when referring to an idea or situation rather than a specific noun.
Importar
This is a verb like 'gustar'; it requires an indirect object pronoun (me, te, le, nos, os, les) to indicate who is affected.
🗨In Conversation
A veces trabajo demasiado y olvido mi salud.
Sometimes I work too much and forget my health.
¿Qué es lo que más te importa?
What is it that matters most to you?
✕Common Mistakes
¿Qué es lo que más te importas?
The verb 'importar' must agree with the thing that matters (the subject), not the person (the indirect object).
¿Qué es que más te importa?
You must use 'lo que' to act as the relative pronoun meaning 'that which' or 'what'.
↔Alternatives
¿Qué es lo más importante para ti?
What is the most important thing for you?
¿Qué te importa más?
What matters to you more?
Cultural Tip
In many Spanish-speaking cultures, family and personal relationships are often cited as the top priority. Asking this question shows a sincere interest in a person's character, which helps build 'confianza' (trust).