German Phrase
Familie geht bei mir immer vor.
Meaning
This expression emphasizes the high priority one places on their family over other commitments like work or social life. It uses the separable verb 'vorgehen', which literally means 'to go before' or 'to take precedence'. It is a common way to state one's personal values regarding loyalty and importance.
When to use
Use this phrase when explaining why you are prioritizing a family event over a social or professional invitation. It is suitable for both formal and informal settings when discussing personal boundaries and priorities.
✦Grammar Breakdown
Familiegehtbei mirimmervor
Vorgehen
This is a separable verb (trennbares Verb). In a simple sentence, the prefix 'vor' moves to the very end.
Bei mir
In this context, 'bei mir' functions as 'in my case' or 'according to my values' rather than a physical location.
🗨In Conversation
Kannst du heute Überstunden machen?
Can you work overtime today?
Nein, tut mir leid, Familie geht bei mir immer vor.
No, I'm sorry, family always comes first for me.
✕Common Mistakes
Familie geht immer vor mir.
'Vor mir' means 'in front of me' physically; 'bei mir' is used here to indicate personal priority.
Familie kommt immer vor.
While 'kommt' can be used in other phrases, 'vorgehen' is the specific idiomatic verb for taking precedence.
↔Alternatives
Meine Familie steht an erster Stelle.
My family comes first.
Die Familie ist das Wichtigste.
Family is the most important thing.
Cultural Tip
In German-speaking cultures, while professional life is highly valued, there is a strong respect for 'Feierabend' and private life. Stating that family takes precedence is generally accepted as a valid and respected boundary in both social and workplace contexts.