German Phrase
Schämst du dich?
Meaning
This phrase is used to ask someone if they feel a sense of shame or embarrassment regarding their actions or a specific situation. It utilizes the reflexive verb 'sich schämen', which is the standard way to express the feeling of shame in German. Depending on the intonation, it can range from a sincere question about one's feelings to a sharp rebuke or rhetorical challenge.
When to use
Use this phrase when someone has done something morally questionable, socially awkward, or hurtful, and you want to know if they feel regret. It is often used in confrontational situations or when discussing ethical behavior.
✦Grammar Breakdown
Schämstdudich?
Reflexive Verbs
The verb 'schämen' requires a reflexive pronoun (dich) that refers back to the subject (du).
Inversion in Questions
To form a question, the conjugated verb 'Schämst' moves to the first position, followed by the subject 'du'.
🗨In Conversation
Ich habe seine Schokolade einfach aufgegessen.
I just ate all of his chocolate.
Schämst du dich nicht?
Aren't you ashamed?
✕Common Mistakes
Schämst du?
The verb 'schämen' is reflexive and must always be accompanied by the reflexive pronoun 'dich' in this context.
Bist du geschämt?
In German, you do not use the verb 'to be' (sein) with shame; you use the reflexive verb 'sich schämen'.
↔Alternatives
Ist dir das nicht peinlich?
Is that not embarrassing to you?
Du solltest dich schämen.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
Cultural Tip
German speakers can be quite direct, but telling someone 'Schämst du dich?' is a significant social provocation. It implies a moral judgment, so it is typically reserved for close relationships or very clear instances of misconduct. In professional settings, a more indirect approach like 'Finden Sie das angemessen?' (Do you find that appropriate?) is common.